10 tips for a successful marriage.

Me and my husband have been together almost 10 years and we have been to hell and back since then. We’ve overcome so much and that includes being young and dumb. Since it’s been almost 10 years I figured I’d do a blog on 10 tips for a successful marriage. I know every marriage is different but these tips go for anyone and you need to really read this to understand and focus on making your marriage better.

We’ve been on the verge of divorce so many times and I’m telling you SO MANY TIMES. Nobody is perfect and everyone has a different view which is why we butt heads so much.

1. Grace upon grace upon grace. Did I mention grace?

2. Love and prefer your spouse over yourself with a self sacrificing love.

3. Be willing to forgive and ask for forgiveness as often as needed.

4. Always assume the best in your spouse.

5. Let your love, appreciation and respect be unconditional. Even if the other person seems “undeserving” for a time.

6. Be willing to examine your own heart before becoming defensive or finger pointing.

7. Be more committed to unity than you are to being right.

8. Be more willing to encourage the positives you see in your spouse rather than exploiting the negatives.

We often only highlight the bad, the constant nagging of taking out the trash or doing this or doing that. Then we forget how much they really do for us. So instead of saying “I’ve asked you to take out the trash 5 times” say “babe can you please take out the trash for me, it’s bugging me” Don’t ever place blame. It won’t end well, only in an arguement.

9. Never ever stop dating your spouse.

This one is so huge. As I’ve said before you never want to stop dating your spouse. Date nights, this can be in or out. This can even be just watching a movie together after the kids are in bed. It’s so important to keep that connection alive in every marriage. The first couple years are always amazing but then we stop trying as hard and that’s when things fail. Don’t let that happen.

10. All. The. Intimacy. I’m sure you get this one. Especially once you become parents it’s so easy to lose that. To lose yourself. Well don’t. I went through a really rough patch and had zero sex drive and in return it made me almost resent my husband. Why? I don’t know. It wasn’t his fault. It was my birth control. I got it removed and the intimacy became so real again and it’s changed our entire lives all over again. Keep the spice alive. ??

These are some of the main things we have learned along the way…and are still learning. Marriage is hard work, and there’s not a single couple who doesn’t struggle. But it’s oh so rewarding.

If you read this all the way then good luck on your marriage and remember communication is key! Don’t settle for anything less!

Xoxo until next time, Cheyenne.